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13 going on 30 is a comedy movie, a Jennifer Garner starrer with nothing great to remember about , except one scene . It the scene where she realizes how selfish and vile she has become at 30 . She goes back to her parent’s house to find some solace . A beautiful song is played in the back ground and at the end of the song she asks her mother “If you were given one chance to change something in your life , what would you ?” . The mother jokingly answers “The wrinkles I guess” and then continues saying “seriously , NOTHING . I have certainly made many mistakes in my life but wouldn't change any of them . What I am today is because of what I learnt from the mistakes ?” . An amazing answer I thought . I asked myself “What would I do ?” . I am an ordinary human being . Even the thought of such a question is too tempting . Would I use such an opportunity ? Definitely Yes . But you got to be highly responsible with opportunities . With great powers comes great responsibilities . Same with the case of opportunities too . But then , what would I change ? . There are too many things that one chance is not enough . Infact about 50% percent of my life I guess . That’s too much . But If you stop reading and try answering the question for yourself , you would come near to that figure . I am no exception . Looking back at life , you can very easily think your life was a total failure , life was unfair to you , you deserved much better and that you were not the one responsible for all your failures . You take pride, infact boast saying the position you are in today is because of the extra-ordinary hard work that you put it in and determination you had and nobody else could have done it . That is the problem with us , hardly anybody thinks he had had an easy life . Then whose life would you choose to have . Every single one of them comes with its share of problems . You think you could have been born in a rich family , gone to the best school , aced all the important exams in your life , get into the best jobs , become a multi millionaire,own the biggest house in town ,have the cosliest of cars and get the beautiful girl you couldn’t . But do you believe the people who have got all these would be content and change nothing in their lives? . You would be surprised.As they say “For each his own” . And then there are mistakes you committed that you want to change , like the exams flunked because you never gave a sh*t about studying in college , the entrance tests you didn’t fair well in , the earning opportunities you missed and the stupid fight you had with the girl of your dreams because of which you can never have her back . Yes, life would have been much happier if all these had not happened but we are never mature for the age we are . You blame yesterday for today , last week for this week , may for June and 2007 for 2008 . At 25 you think you were stupid at 18 and should have handled something better . At 18 you would have felt the same about something you did at 12 . The irony is , at any point you always feel you are mature enough to handle things that are happening to you . But you never are . Mark this day and the things that are happening around you . Ten years from now you would feel you were immature today and could have done things better. You feel so because you don’t live the moment now . You just think of the action alone in isolation . The circumstances that lead to the act and how your feelings were shaped by it then are somethings you can never feel the fullest now . You can always think you could have done well in college , but at that time you would have felt college is for enjoyment and you can always get a job later . If that stupid senior of mine can get a job, I definitely can . It is even more difficult when it comes to girls.You hit yourself for fighting with your girl . You realize now that you should have gone easy , after all she was your's . But you miss the ego now that you had then which made you feel “why should I give in if that stupid girl doesn’t ?” . The loss in both the cases is what makes you understand the gravity of what you did then . So , however you try , unless you have an extraordinary ability to know the effects of things you are doing today , you cannot change anything about your life . I dont have that ability . I am an ordinary human . I may not have the best of lives forward but I also know I cant change anything about it .And that’s why my answer would have been the same as the Mother’s.